How is it that some people seem to stay healthy for years, and others let their health go ? They all develop healthy habits, which allow them to keep their bodies alive and kicking. People can have a lot of trouble staying healthy. Luckily, there are skills that anyone can learn. Here are some habits that you’d do well to adopt if you want your date to become your happily ever after.
Catch a sense of well being when you exercise your muscles!
You may start out with yoga and weights , but the likelihood of being able to sustain that feeling with a busy schedule may be pretty unlikely. Successful people learn to build a set of good habits that work for them. This can be like romance at unexpected times — during their daily commute, while doing laundry — and in low-impact ways, whether that be a long, lingering work out or just taking a brisk walks and holding hands. In other words, the next time you hear yourself say “Oh, look, we’ve got 15 minutes to ourselves,” make use of it — that’s what keeps the work out spark alive. It is how we take care of ourselves when we are food wise and eating healthy to help our muscles recover. Make massage part of these good habit. Massage not only feels good but the therapy also helps your muscle recovery.
Fights can start when we feel physically or mentally down!
Believe it or not, how we feel physically and mentally is part of learning how to live right. It is an important part of keeping chemistry alive. Why? Because if you are constantly in pain or some kind of discomfort and don’t deal with it you can start dragging each other down. It’s hard to feel mutually amorous if you feel sad, dull, tired, fat, sleepy, or achy. “There is no such thing as a relationship without disagreements,” say my dating coaches who have been married for over forty years. “But if your partner can come to you to talk about their real feelings and concerns, you will have an honest relationship comprised of good feelings and healthy attitudes, rather than sad feelings with no sense of accomplishment.” Lori, who has been happily married for almost 20 years to her husband Dave, agrees. “Dave and I have learned to listen to each other when we’re upset and we admit when we’re not taking care of our physical or emotional needs. We also make rules to keep up our good habits such as giving compliments and small gifts to show support for successes.” The result is that their chemistry doesn’t wane because they never let their arguments escalate to a personal level. Focus on the issue in our tissue rather than blaming and making excuses.
Nurture your pride in taking charge on your own!
Going off to your Massage /therapy when your sweetie’s out camping isn’t a sign you two are drifting apart. On the contrary, doing physical or mental work as an individual allows for a richer life as a couple. By taking time by yourself you gain a greater appreciation of the gifts you have acquired while doing your workouts. Your partner brings inspiration, enthusiasm, and reassurance to you. Life also gives you more to offer in a loving or working relationship because you have more energy to offer. “Some of us find that it’s very attractive to be independent sometimes,” says Cheryl, a friend who is searching for ways to nurture her self. As she says “You feel better about yourself and you seem less helpless to your partner when you’re together.” After all, taking some personal responsibility for your own well-being relieves others who might be worrying about you. Now we know why it’s ok to go ahead and nurture some solo adventures.
Take on a project with others!
At times we need to be working , exploring new ground together. As a social species we need one another. My friend and her husband of fifty years found this out when they committed to their first work out together. They are training, hydrating, running, dancing, swimming, and getting routine massages together. The results are in and they are winning the race to keep fit both physically and mentally. This can bring a whole new level of closeness to a relationship because of the time spent learning, supporting, reassuring, and keeping each other motivated. People who take on projects together get a sense of accomplishment thanks to one another’s encouragement and support